My top recommendation is Men and Women in Christ by Andrew Bartlett. It's like a meta-study of what scholars on both sides of the issue are have been publishing, written by a lawyer who is also a theologian. If you look at his footnotes I think you can find all of the best, most-current scholarly work and get a reading list together for a deeper dive. Anything I list below will likely be referenced by him already.
Man and Woman: One In Christ by Philip Payne is very thorough. I'm not sure about his take on kephale as "source" or about his textual criticism of 1 Cor 14:34-35 (he concludes it's not Pauline). He's also published popular-level books based on the work in this thick tome.
Icons of Christ by William Witt, the one mentioned by Anderson in the podcast, is very good. Oddly, it doesn't seem to have been part of Bartlett's analysis. Witt has a chapter near the beginning on what the "traditional" position of the church is (spoiler: he reckons it's sexist). This book is really useful because he splits the protestant and catholic arguments into separate buckets, which is necessary because they come at it from two completely different angles.